Fun soccer is mostly upto u12 level playing 8 aside where players are involved in the game and get more touch,s of the ball. Playing 11 aside is a huge change which some players find hard to adapt to.
The more physical faster players find it easier.
Starting at u10 a coach should know if his " Lil Johhnie " is good enough to play select gold , silver , bronze or house.
The coach may be a top class coach but if " Lil Johhnie " is bronze he shouldn,t have to play silver or gold if dad is coach of the higher level team.
Lil Johhnie will not enjoy playing at the higher level and the other parents will say " Lil Johhnies in the team because dad is coach "
I'd love to hear these "impossibly high standards"! Maybe I have impossibly high standards too!
Disclosure:
I was a qualified coach for many years before the Daemonspawn were ever thought of. At the age of 3, Daemonspawn #1 said "I want to be a soccer guy like daddy." He has one more year of youth ball left, and has already had a chance to play on the field with his old man, and yet still wants to. He has had one year of coaching without my involvement, and didn't like it. Daemonspawn #2 has also always had me involved in coaching his teams; he probably would not still be playing without that involvement.
I am involved in adult soccer as well, so I'm not only in this for my offspring. I am involved with them in the game that we all love because it affords us more time together than we would be able to spend otherwise. This keeps me involved in their lives when I have an occupation that forces me currently to work some really fcuked up long hours, especially when they are at an age when large numbers of their peers have long since stopped even acknowledging their parents' existence. The rides to and from games and practices are special times; there are lengthy discussions about game play and strategy as well as the individual strengths and weaknesses of each of us involved in a particular game.
Am I the world's greatest coach? Of course not, but at least my former and current players still talk to me. All of them (especially my current players) will say that I am a demanding coach to play for, and the Daemonspawn have complained more than once about Coach's impossibly high standards, but they still want me to coach them.
A number of you have had the opportunity to go a lot further in the game as players than I was able to. FFS, share that with your kids. Take what you do know about the game and use it to help your own kids be better players, whether in an official capacity, or even just as a parent volunteer who helps out at practices or games. When your kids ask you about what you did in a pressure situation in a game in front of lots of people watching, you'll be able to give them a meaningful and qualified answer. Don't lose any chance to make that kind of connection with them.
Trece
Very well said. I can only hope that my three allow me to be a part of their development while allowing for that bond and special time you speak of.
Besty, please teach them to play football the way you did........no whine the way you did.........and still do.
I am one of those parent/coaches who actually cut my own son. The term I like to use is "placed in the appropriate environment". It was at the U-15 level of Metro/Select and I continued to coach the team until the end of U-18. Firstly, my son was and is an excellent player, By all accounts, he could have gone to any other Metro team but chose to play at the Gold level of our club. It was no slight on him, but the reality was that although he was capable of playing on our team, his playing time would have been diminished simply due to the depth of players we enjoyed on the team. He was aptly prepared and conditioned for the prospect and was given ample attention and information to address his deficiencies. He needed to play. He was always one of our best players, was always a last cut to provincial teams, but ultimately was being passed by some of his teammates. I have "placed" another player before and that player came back the following year with a vengeance, making our team, the provincial team and NTC team. He is currently at TWU. I was hoping my son would do the same. But you see, the players who really thrive MUST have a passion for the game. Although my son enjoyed still playing, I did not see the same dedication that his teammate displayed who experienced the 'placement" to the Gold team to work and get back to the Metro level. So, I did the right thing for my son. I did not keep him with me at the Metro level and therefore avoided the "discussions" or lectures, some quite heated, to prod him to compete at that level. It actually improved our relationship.
Ballbay , u were honest and straight with your son and placed him "at the appropriate level " .
Many coach,s are selfish and would not have the courage to make that decision. They would have selfishly kept their son in the higher level team thus depriving another player of their rightful spot in Metro.
Many coach,s volunteer countless hrs to soccer but for some reason quite a few neglect their own sons development in soccer.There,s very few coach,s whose sons are talented soccer players, maybe it because coach,s tend to put more pressure/criticism on their own son and often that pressure is brought into the home.
The poor kids are probably under more pressure than other players .
Theres also resentment from other players and parents if a coach gives his own son more playing time than he deserves.
In the interest of these young kids a father should probably not coach their own child starting from u10 level.
What u guys reckon on a coach/son role in kids/youth soccer
Totally agree its all good to coach your own kids til about u10 but once the select levels start at u11/u12 etc its time for a serious rethink especially if your kid is house/bronze level and the dad is coaching a gold or metro team.
Either dad should coach his son at a lower team or not select him for the higher level as there will be resentment from other players and parents . A player should not play below his level or way above his level.