Soccer Coach
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@Soccer Coach ...Have you ever wondered why I continuously call you an idiot, and the dumbest smart guy on TTP? It’s not because you are actually stupid, it’s because you seem to have an absolute inability to discern information when it comes to these discussions. It’s as though you have a pre-formed opinion about whatever the discussion point is, and you skip right past any point others (and I’ll use my own points as examples) make, where that position may actually agree with the stance you’ve taken.
I’d like you to TRY and follow the bouncing ball that you created here on TTP. You get your back up when I insult you, which I do, of course, because I’ve been insulted. It’s how real life fights start, one man insults another, and frequently, the other either insults back in return, or simply throws a punch. Human nature. You understand this, surely. So, in reviewing the LONG LIST of insulting remarks you’ve made, it’s baffling to me that you don’t understand why I come at you with written abuse. Frankly, it’d be better if we were on the training pitch, because I could then kick you, and you’d promptly shut the fcuk up…but that’s, unfortunately, not the case.
People like you seem to enjoy being demeaning to others, then hiding behind an outwardly calm demeanor so as to suggest you aren’t at least partially to blame for the backlash you are receiving, simply because you are delivering your message in a calm, calculated, yet condescending manner.
Let’s review:
Lion called me literally a couple of days ago about trying to “create” an atmosphere of free play. You have- quite right- pointed out that what Canada truly lacks is a culture, where kids will play freely in the streets, etc. You are not wrong, but how do you change a culture? This is something Lion and I have discussed at nausea, that youth are missing. We have created a system of over-coaching, and far too much structure. In fact, I can say pretty much all of the guys here on TTP that I know well, have played with and against over many, many years, know this. It has changed dramatically from when we were young, and did play freely in our own time, no structure. We may be, internationally, a soccer backcountry, but I grew up loving this game. LOVING it. I always had a ball growing up, and all my free time was devoted to playing. From gravel fields at recess and lunch, to playing donkey against the wall, to going to a field on my own to kick around, to riding my bike across town in the summers to attend soccer schools. I am not unique, ALL of us did that. We LOVE this game! Some got very good, then had roadblocks to getting anywhere. I once had a coach who’d played his professional stints in the UK, etc., tell me, “Dude, if you were born overseas, you’d have gone somewhere, telling you that right now.” I know I’m a dime a dozen out this way. There are many, many better players than me, and were many better players even at my peak. This statement got me thinking. Yes, my dream was to be a professional. I made it to College, then that was the end of the journey before falling into the local men’s leagues. But you know what? I’m fcuking proud to be Canadian. I LOVE this country more than I love the game of football. If you had to make me choose- give up being a Canadian, and you can be a professional footballer- I would not make that choice. I’m proud as hell of our country, and what our country does for its citizens, and how it welcomes in immigrants and refugees whom chose to move to Canada in pursuit of better opportunities for themselves and their kids. This is something I truly love about this place. I’d have never met my wife if Canada were to have closed her doors to others feeing their country from war or political unrest. This country, complete with its flaws, has provided me with opportunity, and safety, the opportunity to build personal wealth, and live a fulfilling life loving our incredible outdoor environment. I’ve travelled the world with my bike and board, and although I love all of the places (and people) I’ve visited, I LOVE coming home. So yes, I’m thankful for what my country has allowed me to do, and am well cognizant that we are unique in a world where poverty and famine reign. Anyone who has Canadian citizenship should thank their lucky stars. I truly believe that. So, if our Canadian National program and all the support system around the game are decade, maybe centuries behind other nations, so be it. I am proud of what little history we have in this game. It’s not a great history, but it’s our history. But I’ll be damned if some asshole from South America, who apparently has never actually PLAYED this game at ANY reasonable level, is going to come onto this forum and insult Canadians, and Canadian soccer without at least giving him something back, and pointing out the foolishness of his words.
- Way back where we first “met” in this thread, on a Web forum and in a thread created by Canadian Soccer players, you decide that it would be a good idea to demean not just Canadian soccer, but players from top-to-bottom and coaches alike in a wide painting brush that essentially paints us as back-country bumpkins that have never been exposed to the game, and who are intellectually inferior to you in particular in every way. This becomes especially infuriating when it becomes evident that what you are writing is essentially the same message many of us have been writing for year, but you fail to acknowledge this EVEN when many actually agree with much of what you are writing.
- Earlier in the thread you point to the lack of a true Canadian Professional league as being a major stumbling block in professional development. This is an issue many players here on TTP in the know have been banging on about for YEARS, certainly as long as I’ve been a member. Yet, when we point that out, you revert to suggest (I’m paraphrasing, now, and will continue to do so, because I am quite busy, and don’t have the time to go back and pull your exact quotes…so feel free to correct me in I’m wrong), that we are naïve, wrong, and as coaches we are actually hurting our system more than helping it.
- Earlier in the thread you point to a lack of technical development, and too much “over coaching”, and even reverting to kick & run tactics. This again is an issue many players here on TTP in the know have been banging on about for YEARS. One of the biggest issues we have in Canada is a lack of coaches, from the highest end, down to house. We simply don’t have enough! We have too many well earning dads that register their kids, and due to a lack of knowledgeable coaches and volunteers, step up, and try and do a job they simply have no idea how to do. I never played hockey. I watched a lot on TV and am a huge fan, but never played. It’d be like me trying to teach kids how to skate, shoot, and think tactically. I’d be a fish out of water. So, when we have situations like this- well-meaning but supremely underqualified dad coaching at the grassroots level- we are, systematically shooting ourselves in the foot from the beginning. We give these guys manuals, and coaching clinics, then “qualify” them, but they still do not have an innate understanding of the game. We know this is a huge problem. Little secret: after coaching my son from 5 till 12, I swore I’d never coach my daughter. The relationship between my son and I was strained as father / son with me coaching him. He was too wound up and so intent on pleasing me it hurt his development, while I watched all the other boys around him take leaps and bounds, move on to higher levels, etc. Eventually things worked out, and he chose to pursue hockey and bike racing instead, but I did promise myself I wasn’t going to make the same mistake w/ my daughter. That lasted one year, when I watched the guys who were coaching my 6 year old what a mess they were making. They clearly had never played, could not handle a ball at their feet if their lives depended on it. They didn’t even wear proper footwear. They meant well, but because of their general disconnection to the sport, they spent most of the time talking, and trying to teach positional play, and not nearly enough time simply playing with the ball at their feet. Almost no free play. My daughter didn’t enjoy it, and told me she wasn’t going to play again unless I coached, and she was right, I needed to get involved. I could not let her play another year with such poor instruction, it wasn’t right. I had the playing experience, I had the knowledge. The first thig we changed was making sure there was a hell of a lot less talk, and way more time with the ball at their feet, and simply playing. You know, when you aren’t instructed? Much of the time was spent in the early years- yes- with every girl having a ball at their feet, teaching technical skills. Every girl would have a ball for 45 minutes. The rest of the practice was typically a scrimmage for another 30-45 minutes. No rules, just play. Yes, there was a reward system early on. Yes, it involved getting a trip to Dairy Queen, where the team would bond, if a girl pulled off a Cryuff or step-over, or nut-megged another player in a match. If they made passes w/ their weak foot. If they scored with their weak foot. And, yes, if I saw they were thinking critically, playing with their head up, and trying to make smart decisions, rather than just kicking the ball up the field. Out of that group of girls, from U7, I have lost 2 to other sports (quit soccer), lost 2 to going to another club because they moved, graduated, by my guess, close to 20 to higher levels, and the rest have stayed. At the grassroots level, that type of retention is considered hugely successful. And guess what? Those original coached? Those well-meaning coaches are not coaching at a high level, because their daughters happened to be very good athletes, and the club would promote the girls, then have no truly qualified coach for them (not the club’s fault, it’s a systematic issue we have here, not enough guys giving back), so the same guys moved up the coaching ranks. On more than one occasion, I have been told the club would like my daughter to move up a level, and I knew the only reason why was because they wanted me coaching at a higher level. Finally, I had a very honest discussion with the club, and said I knew my daughter wasn’t ready for the next level up, so we wouldn’t be moving up until she was. Now, much of this, in bit and pieces, I’ve shared and expressed in this thread. Yet, you zero I on the fact I rewarded my girls with trip to Dairy Queen once upon a time, and insinuated that I was doing it all wrong, and the right way to coach was to introduce free play, and to “try it sometime” (seriously, WTF? Did you read anything I wrote?), and they should be making those moves because they love the game, not because they are chasing ice cream. See, you simply don’t get it. You can’t force players to love the game, that will come naturally. But you can influence their environment when you have them. To have the type of retention I get, you don’t get that through giving them ice cream, you get that through sharing your love of the game, and passing that along. They come back year after year because they have fun playing, and that is all I want- I want them to have fun, and come back next year. If they move up, great. If they don’t move up, but come back to play, also great. Yet, somehow, I’m doing it all wrong in your eyes, and am bad for the game. Even though you’ve never actually seen me coach. Because I have rewarded them with ice cream.
- Several times in this tread you have pointed out Canada’s national ranking, as if we aren’t aware of it. Honestly, do you really think we are so stupid that we don’t know where we are ranked, and why?
- Don’t even get me started on your supreme misunderstanding of our local urban areas, and population / population density growth. It’s obvious you need to get around more. You can lead a horse to water, but can’t force it to drink.
Soccer Coach, as far as I’m concerned, you are welcome to come back to this party anytime, even if you are that awkward guy in the corner that “doesn’t get it”, but don’t think that if you write something inaccurate, or worse, condescending, you won’t get backlash. Maybe think about what you are trying to send out as your message. Could it be that there are some people around you that actually do “get it”, and are positive contributors to what we know is a bit of a fcuked up system?
Anyways, this has been pretty random, I have a lot to do, but needed to get this off my chest.
You now @Dude I have not replied on purpose because you really get all emotional and insulting right away. I am not here to ruin your day. I will post in detail later. Do you think that I enjoy seeing Canada playing poorly and getting tied 1-1 with a nation that is ranked 150th in the world?
I can see that the Canadian soccer system failed you and your dreams. Sadly it continues to do so for the current kids. The tragic part is that you have become and agent that perpetuates it. You do not see it. Think about it........ Before I post it so it does not take you by surprise